DEAR CHYNA

            “whats up Chyna,

                                  My name is Devon I’m a 30  year old bachelor that is a CEO of my Very Own Travel Agency . I recently broke up with my x-girlfriend of five years. It’s been a year since we split … but it wasn’t because either one of us cheated. I have a very dominant personality and I’m that guy that likes to flirt. She’s a quite girl, not very talkative but sweet and caring. I love that about her but she keeps me balanced what should I do to get my lady back? After I chose to walk away “

Devon, MI

: Hello Devon ,

First off I would like to congratulate you on being one of very few guys in there late 20’s early  30’s who’s not ashamed on asking a women her advice ,on getting another women back into      your life  .Simple but major step most males your age wouldn’t even consider because for you its “Prime time” …but to answer your question , is easy to say you want someone back after they’ve been absent in your life for a period of time and your use to their presence. what you have to ask yourself is besides balance, where do you see your self with women? Is she someone you will compartmentalize as a friend or is she a potential wife .I say wife because giving your stature and your need for her return with great thought in due time you should be putting a ring on it , if its worth the fight …I’m just saying .  you guys were together for five years this shouldn’t be hard .I’m sure  you both  matured and developed some type of stability in your lives but one thing that never changes is potential  no matter how old you guys get . You seem like complete opposites  and one thing I do admire is that you understand you need her for balance . Are you willing to work on this relationship ? And is she willing to do the same ? what does she have going on in her life ? career , personal and leisure wise …you must know these things before approaching the situation . But most off all you must know what you want . Honesty is the best policy , be patient be assertive and don’t beat around the bush say exactly what you want . Use that dominant personality and do something out of the ordinary. Romance at 25 isn’t nearly the same at 30! pull some strings Mr. CEO and plan a memorable night. before hand  do your research , open up that line for communication and stand your ground now matter how many jabs are being thrown at you …Cause after one year and you wanna return ! Honey you know us women are good for it ! . Stay consistent and show her that you’ll work for it . Trust me you wont be working for too long .

Best of luck

~Chyna Saduah White 

 

The soul snatcher

The power of intimacy is as intriguing as Lust or the act of intercourse . Me …I’m what you call a Sapiosexual , an individual who is enticed by the mind of the opposite sex anything other than that of course is icing on the cake for me . You see I wasn’t always that way believe me ,It was much more of a physical thing for me . Good looks charm and a little swagger …okay.. I could work with that … UNTIL one night turns into days, days turn into weeks , weeks being spent together turns into trial and error and what I thought I liked wasn’t what I wanted at all ! Okay you might be saying to yourself well it’s your fault you spent so much time ! or men will be men for the females who haven’t quite experienced what I’m gonna break down for you over a course of time . The difference between intimacy and sex , sex and lust, Energy and soul snatching . I find it very amusing that when I’m on Instagram or Facebook I see all these quotes and memes about “soul snatching” and the best head I’ve ever had , in which are the same people if you had a personal conversation with based on sex and their sexuality are far from open minded sexually. Get a grip, having an orgasm reaching a climax or something that feels good at the moment is NOT I repeat is NOT in no way shape or form soul snatching my dears . Soul snatching is when your partner or prospect for the night (yes I said for the night) gives you much more then physical stimulation but a natural high ! Imagine toasting to the good life on top off a 100 storie building while blowing smoke in the air . Sun bathing topless in Maui with a cold margarita in your hand . Walking into a stadium full of hundreds and thousands of people who all stand  and applaud you upon you’re entrance . This here is dope sh!t my friend but it gets better and better and eventually addictive.

Let us begin 

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Soul snatching : Being able to control your opposition not only physically but with your mind. A soul snatcher will entice your mind , leaving you fully open to experiencing new things outside your comfort zone .

Example ::::  Four out of five people cannot even picture their selves having sex with a person they have a sexual relationship with , hell they can’t even  picture this person while master bating , Not good 

If you are not sexually open minded physically mentally this article is not for you . 

A soul snatcher will not only have you thinking about what they are doing at the moment but also the next time you see them : what your going to say , wear , you might even bring groceries over to cook for them .

A soul snatcher is intriguing with touch : they will do things in your presence that only you would remember . Forehead kisses , slight grabs or pecks on the neck just a few little examples

They also have pet names or thing they usually tend to say in messages That will make you question why they aren’t doing or saying it when it stops

Sex 

Soul snatchers have a precise way of doing things in the bedroom . They aim to please ! They’ll please you and control you at the same damn time !

“You like they way that feels ….open up ….. Let me see it …. You not giving my sh!t away ? Right ?! Take it .. This is mine …Who’s ****** is this !” 

You’ll recognize your soul snatcher when your weak and have no choice but to reply if not tell them try their luck next time

They are visual , so be ready to dance or keep the lights on . Kinky is an understatement and their egos won’t allow them to give you the basic experience
” let me hit it on the balcony “

          “Pull over and let me suck it ” 

Soul snatchers are so confident and content with their selves nothing takes them out of their comfort zone .

They will say and do the unexpected remember they aim to please so even if you’ve never experienced what they have to offer you’ll love it after .

Your soul snatcher will be a game changer for you , you will acquire a different taste in a sexual partner and everything you’ve experienced once before will become mediocre ! Lol don’t be modest

It’s a lot that you can learn from your soul snatcher, in fact after they’ve been in your presence you will see a change in your confidence .

Recognizing Game

Us women we get so caught up on the idea of changing a man

what we can do to them what we can get out of them based upon the games we play

I was one of them because, see in my mind and to my circle I held the golden ticket

The rule book , the hey girl break him down feed the ego ..

I taught them how to lure them in and make them stay

7 rules 10 steps all of which gave these women food for thought room to breathe

and a shot at keeping their men ….

Many succeeded but in my case it was just a game

A game I played very well until it couldn’t be played no longer

What I failed to have realized was that these games I played only made it easier to attract

this certain type of man ..

The same type of guy I’ve met a thousand times over

Frustrated growing sick and tired of being use to what I was always familiar with

I then realized that when playing the game utilizing these steps and various rules I was only

playing myself …..

I got back exactly what I put out took it as lessons learned because I had only been harm to myself..

what I’ve concluded ?

I learned that when it came to dating , monitoring your relationship as a women leave the games alone because what we are looking for is a challenge , a partner that we can learn and receive support from ..

not a game ..

Honesty is the best policy and there’s no room for misinterpretation when being honest .

ladies everyone has standards set yours   as high as you feel you deserve

You’ve got to attract the type of man you want and also remember that change starts with

yourself.

~Chyna Saduah White