Dating a Narcissit (Part 1)

” Hey beautiful I’m happy you came out tonight “…..

So you’ve met Prince Charming the type of guy you’ve been hoping to date for some time now . It seems as if the men of your past had no idea how to treat you ,court you or respect you after some time and now that you’ve met Prince Charming everything is quite alright . He’s romantic he’s funny he’s a gentlemen in his own right . He compliments you he craves you he needs you and your simply high off life 

” I hope you don’t give up on me ” 

So after some time of dating your prince conversations get more intimate . He doesn’t reveal too much about his past or anything that has emotionally affected him yet he has high hopes of you not walking away from him because “they all do ” so he says …. 

” You gave up on me ” 

It’s been a couple of months and you guys had an argument or disagreement which didn’t sit well for you . Your initial reaction was to leave the situation alone , maybe he’s just not the guy for you but then you get a call from your prince . He may or may not take responsibility for the argument but he’s seeking some type of sympathy , he wants to work it out and he doesn’t want to give up on you guys ..so what do you do ? 

” I’m calling him , he’s not answering me at all ” —Your thoughts 

After your argument and a make up sex session you now feel that it can only get better not expecting for your prince to withdraw emotionally or physically from your relationship you start to ask yourself “what have I done ” 

“I don’t know what your talking about ! I don’t have time for this go ahead and leave “

After finally getting in touch with your prince , you explain to him what you have been feeling in his absence , trying to gain clarity of what may have went wrong after you guys made up 

“I didn’t like what you said “ 

So Now you think was that all it took to walk away …

        Your phone rings …it’s the prince calling 

” I need you can you be here soon ” 

Of course this is your “man” why not you think though but your hesitant .. he needs me and now your emotions has made the decision for you..

                             One year later 

” but I love you “

“Nah , I don’t have time “

” I thought you loved me “

” I know I’m not the only ” 
And now your back at square 1 .. On a date with your “prince ” and everything is okay until he refers back to the times he dissed you and you allowed him back In … Or the times he blatantly ignored your calls … The dates he took you on that he invested his time in and then he states ” You’ve been down for me since day one ” that’s why I love you ..

Stop here …💡

Ladies and this may apply to men as well .. When you’ve been conducting any type of relationship with a narcisstic person , it is hard to identify at first for they may appear in your life at a time in need which you may identify as PERFECT TIMING … Narcissistic individuals are self righteous . They crave power and tend to have others around them who may idolize them . Before showing their true face they must show you the image they project publicly . After spending some time with them you may start to see things that contradicts their character . Just like power they crave control . They may have series of failed relationships due to infedelity or insecurities . Yes ! Insecurities . Though they posses a charming strong character they lack self confidence outside a world of their own . For example think of person who lives in side a bubble .. They have every necessity needed around them in arms reach to survive or simply maintain but can be affected easily by something or someone whom are not of their norm . Dating a narcisstic person is very toxic if you allow your self to invest time in their facade . Take a breath stop and think if it’s worth it to deal with an individual who may love you but loves what you give them more . 

To be continued …… this information was not enough for you to leave your narcisstic lover alone . You’ve sat and read my article once maybe twice , but what Ive disclosed to you was a fair warning . Your not scared of your narcisst , your sure you can beat him at his own game . My only advice to you is , do it if it feels good but not long enough for you to loose yourself 

Good luck , Godbless ❤️

Dear Chyna …

     Hello Tania , 

I apologize for the wait in my response but getting straight to it ! Get from behind him he’s your pimp . This started as fun for you guys now your feelings are invested which happens but he’s still having fun and he’s making money off of it . I don’t know you guys personally to say what his feelings are for you but I’m sure if you have a discussion with him about a relationship he may just question why the sudden change  and pull back but if he doesn’t ..well girl send me back another email lol . All jokes aside if your looking for something substantial don’t ever be afraid to ask for it . It’s your actions and what you allow that very well may continue . 

The best of luck to you ! 

Ms white ,

The Sapiosexual – round table discussions (female) Am conversations

Being a Sapiosexual Female my introduction in a initial conversation starts with “what are your super powers ?” 

Now majority of the time Id have to elaborate on what I mean but with some  inquisitive minds this sparks a dynamic conversation 

What are your super powers ? ...

“Super powers are abilities in which you feel are assets that others may identify or admire about you “- Ms White 

I sat in room of several women from completely different walks of life , we talked non stop the coversation had no sense of direction but remained interesting  And then Marie says :

” Honey , Mike will never meet another B!@c#! Better than me ! ” –Marie 

And then the shit hits the fan , because while 5 of the women engaging in this conversation agreed I took this as an opportunity to ask … Why ? 

” I mean , Marie your beautiful career driven but I’d like to know what are your super powers? ” : – Ms white 

Immediately the room went quiet , and then I hear : “Hear goes Miss thang with her sociology tactics”  Not offended but flattered because Now I opened a window for all these women to sit and self reflect on things other than beauty and finance to conclude what there super powers were and luckily for me I was the only One able to answer that Question. 

“Well , for one the way I sex him Girl bye ! Like no other “– Marie 

Take Marie , 32 year old young entrepreneur and freelance designer she’s amazing at what she does and I’m quite sure she’s amazing in the sack . This just might be her super power who Am I to judge , I love sex myself and for me it is an art form 

“I’m a believer  ”  – Ms white 

” yes , Chy it’s undeniable “- Marie 

Shortly after My friend Nick intervenes Saying that as a Married women and mother of two she has More to offer than sex “My super power is love “ – Nick … Followed by a few others : “My mind , My heart , My career , My ability to sympathize , My hustle ” …. I let them continue on and on and stopped the conversation abruptly when they started to discredit one another 

We all have superpowers and that may consist of more than you know yourselves take pride in everything that you do and when you do it , do it the best way you know .. We all have stamps , footprints , experiences we contribute & influence 365 Let us Not judge one another but appreciate each other’s superpowers !

_Chyna Saduah white 

Ms white . 

Ask Chyna ..

  

Dear Chyna

Hello Nicole , 

First off Thank you for following me on Instagram @chynasaduahwhite I appreciate that and I’m not sure who Donnie ?? Is. On another note …..Nicole that girl is NOT your “sister” let alone your friend . It’s convenient for you not to have anything and for her to have a tad bit more in her possession to feel comfortable around you. In other words this female is insecure and she feeds off the fact that your not as stable as you should be . Any friend that does not motivate you to elevate yourself to the next level , who blocks and belittles your blessings  who doesn’t support you and does corny stuff like that doesn’t deserve to be around . Drop that HOE and compartmentalize your friends from associates to spectators . I wish you all the best with your personal and business ventures .
@chynasaduahwhite

GREEN EYED ENVY – Introduction

            Where it starts 

As a young black women growing up in an urban community I’ve conquered and experienced many adversities , Like many can also relate too but one thing that perplexes me to this day is Jealousy …Coming up I’ve had many friends some more privileged than me and some less fortunate but I could never honestly say that there was any point in my life where I compared any of my accomplishments , lifestyle or materialistic possessions to what they possessed .I was more on the timid side more sensitive more emotional than most . when I was happy for my friends it seeped through my pores  I showed it . When I was upset with them they felt it but all in all both good and bad it was genuine feeling .

But I don’t understand  , HUH me ?   

For someone who’s content with what they have very grateful & humble the last thing a he or she would be thinking about is drama …Because here you are just being the happy go lucky you ..hey It might be a situation not surrounding what you possess but the love, support and blessing  you may receive … Yet still your confused because on the outside looking in you may not be in the best situation your self but to someone who’s envious of you , You have EVERYTHING …

         The cycle begins 

Meet the representative …In all cases friendships , relationships , any-type of partnership you have a greater chance of meeting a persons representative . This is the person or personality that steps forth at your initial meeting ..

“Everything was great at the beginning ” –  We’ve all heard that saying more then once and that’s generally because you never really know who you’ve met surpass the meeting .

For some of us who has had these experiences we are able to Identify this person first hand and separate ourselves from them immediately . because what we do know about a jealous “friend” is number (1)  we motivate them , but they feed off our energy .. By them just being in your vicinity is  dangerous because they will secretly hate you while trying to emulate you and if they aren’t content with that they will do anything sneaky and never direct to compromise you .

        MEET GREEN EYED ENVY 

Ti’s The Season ~ Lippi-es

As we transition into another  season There is two categories of lip colors that are must haves! 

             Your fall & winter Nudes and Deep reds in which can be worn for a  day and nighttime look 

I will briefly list my go to favorites from expensive to least expensive To help you revive your fall and winter essential must have’s for those make up bags …

DEEP REDS

   1.Chanel: #29 //$36.00

    2. NARS :  scarlet empress // $27.00

    3. Mac : Diva // Runner//   $17.00

     4.  NYX: Copenhagen // $6.00

NUDES 

1.Chanel :Rouge COCO //$36.00

2. mac: Creme D’ Nude // $17.00 

3.Revlon: 070 colorburst soft nude //$8.00

4.  NYX:Nude///circe                    $6.00

5. Elf : natural Nymph// $4.00

Instagram:@chynasaduahwhite

Dear Chyna

  
Hello Tonia , 

I’m gonna be completely honest with you … He doesn’t love you my dear. If he does it’s a “sisterly” love kind of thing …but not really. He loves having casual sex with you. It’s been 3years you’ve made it easy for him to come and go as he pleases . Do yourself a favor and write down 3 reasons why you should continue on with this relationship …I’m sure you won’t get to 3 . I don’t wanna sound harsh but I have to be brutally honest with you . Your young your hot and your spicy that’s your value to him so he needs you around . Drop him . It’s not worth depriving yourself of a happy blissful personal life. He seems like a womanizer but it may not be him it may be you . He’s already told you “he doesn’t want to ruin your friendship” #moveon there’s always better Tonia. 

~Chyna Saduah White 

THE HEAD HUNTER

  

” This article is for adults whom are open minded to Opinions , facts and experience based on sexual preference”

Oral sex – such a “touchy” subject for many ..Some consider their-selves very open minded with great experience regarding thus , some do not care for it and others are a bit timid. Its completely natural for someone to shy away from the topic of oral sex while others find it very intriguing .

LETS BEGIN

The head hunter either man or woman has a specific objective besides aiming to please , they love the reaction admiration and thrill of pleasing their partner. The act of pleasing is simply an art form to these individuals , They do it cause they love it …

Shall we go a bit deeper ?

With great determination you can master what ever it is you set out to do . In regards to the Head hunter he or she has does not have to have a great deal of practice to master this technique They are simply observant and hands on the bedroom . They are not afraid to do what ever it is that comes to mind with all do respect to their partner and they are pretty much aware of what makes you tick …

Example

The G spot  come on we all remember these trying days  “Girl he hit the spot “! 

for some this is completely natural to find …for others lets just say if your over 25 and do not know any better ….try harder or better yet I have plenty of articles for you to read upon and workshop that will change your life…..

On another note its NOT hard to identify these sensitive areas on your mate ..explore

The head Hunter is very cocky! They observe your movements what you like , what drives you crazy and triple the pleasure for you …Lets just say they hit you with the REMIXXXXX

 

 

This is typically a harder job for a female .. Well for some .

FOR EXAMPLE :

 Fellas , lets just say your golden ticket is simply clitoris stimulation . Once a females clitoris is stimulated and saturated you better be ready for what comes next 

For the ladies observe your mate what makes him tick is ? Does he get excited from the shaft or the scrotum or both ? 

Men typically are stimulated with vibrations . Slurping , spit , tongue flipping and deep throating are the basis . 

“I told you it was rated R – adults keep reading”

You must also remember the male species are very visual creatures…. girl they nasty ! They wanna see just how nasty you can get. You must be appealing to the eye but not cutesy and very confident. The typical head hunter female loves to surprise ! They like the vibe they get when their mate is caught off guard 

For example :

Fellas when’s the last time you got head on the highway unexpectedly ? 

Or walked in from work and your mate drops to her knees?

Ladies this a weekness for men , Be the women who give it unexpectedly not the women he has to be asked for it .
Fellas 

Hold on the teeth !

This is a very sensitive area , open up your mouth and do it with pride . Good kissers are typically the best head givers . So if you don’t kiss much you might want to master that before “mastering” head hunting . Use less of those fingers and more of that tongue .. I have to be brutally honest … There’s a perfect Time for everything . Our bodies will let you know when the time is right. 

Remember the main objective of the head hunter is to aim to please ! There’s plenty of ways you can seduce your mate but what separates rutine sex from the masters is the fact they take pride in what they do , love it , rein event their techniques along the way and master it!